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[Pinnacle]

Didn't know where to put this! I'm a very attached horse mommy. Love my boy to pieces.. you know how people talk about that one special once in a lifetime horse? Well my guy is it.. but I've decided it's time to sell. Someone else deserves to experience him, and I'm ready to move to something else that's going to fight me a little more (ie. a challenge! Perry's a mind reader and a complete saint.. he's a blast to ride but he knows everything I'm thinking!).. anyways.. HOW do you let go? I shouldn't have let myself get so attached but being the naive 15 year old I was when I got him, I simply assumed I'd have him forever, and now I'm completely unprepared to let go!
Help!

[_KELSEY_]

I bought my first pony when I was 11 or 12ish. He was bought with intentions of resale so I knew from the beginning. He lived in a field and did nothing when I got him, and it took me 6 months to be able to get him around a course. He was a devil pony, threw me and trainers off more times than I can count, but in the end turned into a perfect show pony and won everything at tbird, etc.

I sold him when I was 13 and it was actually the hardest thing I've ever had to do. The barn I ride at is a training/sales barn, so I'm used to horses coming and going but watching my pony leave was (oh god i'm actually going to cry lol) the worst thing possible. I'm still not over it. I don't think there is any easy way to let them go, its horribly difficult and heart breaking, but when I saw the barn on the internet he went to in California, I felt a bit better. It is absolutely amazing. And I've kept in touch with the girl and hes been winning everything in the hunters, eqs and jumpers.

Don't try to think Ok, how can I make this easy because it won't be. You'll be heart broken and a disaster for a few weeks, but once you know how hes doing and stuff, you'll feel better.

I don't even know how I'm going to sell my current horse that I bought as a 3 year old that I'll probably keep for another 3 years. Oh god.. Sorry for the life story and I'm sure Perry will make someone very very happy.

[butterflyfx]

perry will definitely make someone else very happy...he'll be a great confidence builder for some youngin'!!! :p

and just think, a new horse means maybe something that you get really attached to as well, maybe not as much as perr, but something that'll teach YOU lots! karlie, being a greenie and being the pissy mare that she is has taught me more then ANY trainer EVER could! a trainer can teach you to sit pretty, and to find your distances and stuff, but only the horse can teach you to love what you're doing. ;)

good luck, you know i'm behind you. :cool:

[Rolandosbabe]

I know, I'm selling my Canadian Quarter Horse and me and her love each other to death! But, I got a new horse! I NEED TO SELL HER!!!!!!!! So, if any of you need a good kids horse....come to me and message me and I'll tell you the details. She's a dark bay, about 15.2 hands, jumps pretty high for her height, has marking on her face(a star, and we call it her pink spot on her nose), she loves to kiss too. She's very intellengent and she's very cute! A lot of judges liked her!!!! :rolleyes:

[gloryrider]

I bought my first pony when I was 11 or 12ish. He was bought with intentions of resale so I knew from the beginning. He lived in a field and did nothing when I got him, and it took me 6 months to be able to get him around a course. He was a devil pony, threw me and trainers off more times than I can count, but in the end turned into a perfect show pony and won everything at tbird, etc.

I sold him when I was 13 and it was actually the hardest thing I've ever had to do. The barn I ride at is a training/sales barn, so I'm used to horses coming and going but watching my pony leave was (oh god i'm actually going to cry lol) the worst thing possible. I'm still not over it. I don't think there is any easy way to let them go, its horribly difficult and heart breaking, but when I saw the barn on the internet he went to in California, I felt a bit better. It is absolutely amazing. And I've kept in touch with the girl and hes been winning everything in the hunters, eqs and jumpers.

Don't try to think Ok, how can I make this easy because it won't be. You'll be heart broken and a disaster for a few weeks, but once you know how hes doing and stuff, you'll feel better.

I don't even know how I'm going to sell my current horse that I bought as a 3 year old that I'll probably keep for another 3 years. Oh god.. Sorry for the life story and I'm sure Perry will make someone very very happy.

My story is pretty much the same as yours. My parents bought a large pony for me when I was 12 y/o. I fell in love with him, and had him for two awesome years. I learned so much on that pony. We just sold him last Friday, right after our last show together. :( I never knew how hard it was, I thought I'd be okay after watching horses and ponies come and go from our barn for years (our barn, like Kelsey's, is a training/sale/show barn).

It's not easy, not at all. The first couple of days were horrible. I get so sad at night, I end up feeling so guilty for selling him and for wanting a new horse. Now the days aren't too bad. I read myself to sleep at night nowadays, something I never use to do, to keep my mind off him. It's getting better, but it will take time.

Luckily, the owners are very nice people, and their 9 year old daugther loves Archie. It will be a good home for him, and the people are going to email me often. My dad offered to drive us up to Minnesota to see him, but I'm undecided whether I want to or not. I'm not sure I could handle it right now.

Sorry for spilling my life story, but maybe you'll get something out of that anyway.

[_KELSEY_]

Aww gloryrider, so sad :( I know how you feel. Now I have my new baby (baby green last year) and I can't sell him. Hes going to be exactly what I want, which I'm thankful for because if he turned out any different I would be heartbroken to sell that beasty.

I would kill to go visit my pony. I haven't seen him in like 3 years since hes in a different country than me.. But hes being amazing and winning everything so it makes me happy.

[Pinnacle]

I bought my horse thinking he would be a forever horse... so I never even remotely prepared for this. I kind of new last year that it was time, but I wasn't mentally ready to do it.. but this year I know it's time. I've finally emotionally and mentally committed to the decision... but now I just have to find that perfect home. I think if I know he's going to a great home where someone will love him as much as I do.. it'll be a little easier. And I think it will be important that I get a greenie to focus on as soon as possible...
It's going to be so hard. He truly is that one special horse... we understand eachother completely, he's like a big dog... he never was an investment, and he's not being sold for profit... hell, I'd give him to the perfect home if they couldn't pay much.

[gloryrider]

Aww gloryrider, so sad :( I know how you feel. Now I have my new baby (baby green last year) and I can't sell him. Hes going to be exactly what I want, which I'm thankful for because if he turned out any different I would be heartbroken to sell that beasty.

I would kill to go visit my pony. I haven't seen him in like 3 years since hes in a different country than me.. But hes being amazing and winning everything so it makes me happy.

Your pony's in a different country? Wow, that's sad. :(

I'll probably go visit him sometime, but not so soon. In a month or so, I think the little girl is planning on taking him to a show near us. I'll go to that one too, if she's going, so I can see my pony. Hopefully I'll have a new horse by then, but if not, some nice people at the barn have asked me to ride their horsies in a show, so it might as well be that one.

BTW, I looked at your avatar thingy and you have really good eq.! I just had to metion that lol.

[AidEE]

I sold my pony sevral months ago too. I hd had him for about 4 years and had done most all of his training. We had a rocky first year or so but when we got it sorted out ( and him trained) he was wonder pony. It was really hard for me the first couple weeks. But i got to go down to Cali and see him and the place that he was at adn it made me feel A LOT better. I am now good friends with the girl that owns him. And i love to hear how he does at shows and such. IT makes me sad that i had to sell him but it makes me happy that he can make someone else really happy.

[-Hill-]

Is it possible you could lease Perry instead of sell him? That way, you'd still have the final say over him. Or if you know anyone in your barn or around your area that's interested that would be cool, so he'd stay near enough that you'd be able to know how he'd be doing with his new kid.

[IlovePizza]

Oh man, I'm going through the same thing...I'm having to get rid of two of my horses, Diego's going back to Calgary sometime this month and I just can't think about it yet because I get too sad...Lyric's for sale also and i REALLY can't think about that one...I have to keep telling myself that someone will love him as much as i do and that he will share that same bond that he has with me with someone else...I just think that he is going to go on and teach another little girl how to ride which is what he loves...Maybe we could all buy a farm together and turn out all our horses to live together and we could keep them forever!